How to Heal Yourself: 3 Real Types of Healing
Everyone is trying, whether she knows it or not, to heal in one way or another.
As humans in this world, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll have heartbreak. It’s part of the experience, the flip-side of joy. So everyone is trying to heal from some sadness, some tear that’s been made in her or his energetic being, in the energetic location of the heart chakra.
This is where we need emotional healing—healing of the heart.
Then there are those of us who might be trying to heal ourselves of disruptive or limiting thoughts. Our minds have been trained, and we’ve come to the realization that what our minds say is not serving us.
In this case, we can be thankful for the awareness of realizing that our mind (in the form of beliefs in the subconscious and thoughts in the conscious) is not well. We can be grateful for the ability to see that what the mind says can be selfish, erratic, judgmental, hateful, fearful, and completely of the ego.
The ego is basically the voice in the head that is always striving for identity through some outer form in the world because it has lost touch with consciousness, with your soul, which is the only real identity.
Therefore, all of these negative, scared or hateful beliefs/thoughts of the mind are not products of who we are because the mind has been separated from the power of who you are, your soul (which is why it’s so frantic and fearful all of the time—ego).
This is where we need mental healing—healing of the mind.
Then there’s physical healing which is way more obvious, tactical, logical and clear. You’re much more likely to have an experience you can see, hear, feel directly or touch in physical healing.
I just had surgery, so physical healing is the name of the game (and what got me thinking about healing). ‘Tis the season so my family has been sick for the last couple of weeks, and so healing is really all I’ve been thinking about.
But here’s the thing about physical healing: it’s directly related to the other two types of healing. You cannot separate mental and emotional healing from physical healing. Because the 5 bodies are all directly related to and connected to each other. One kind of healing gives rise to healing the other.
When you heal your mind, your heal your heart, which heals your body. When you heal your body, you have the strength to embrace emotional healing which incorporates mental healing. See what I mean? All of these energies of you inform the rest of your energetic capacities.
When you heal one part of you, you begin the healing of the rest of your capacities.
It’s important to note that we aren’t broken. We aren’t ever divided from God or Spirit because we are always unconditionally loved by Source (insert your own word for the Creator here). It’s just a matter of remembering and bring everything back online, together as a functioning one, connected to soul. We always have the animation or spark of God.
The soul or spirit of you is still here, will always be here, and only needs to be remembered. The piece of Spirit that animates you is the real you and can’t be broken. It lives on after the energies that define it now (heart, mind and body) die. It can’t even die, let alone break.
Healing is reuniting, mending the little or big tears of separation, on whatever energetic level they’re on (heart, mind, or body), back to the soul. Healing is basically remembering the unconditional love that holds us. It’s getting back in touch with the true soul of who we are.
We aren’t our bodies, minds or even our hearts/emotions. We are the soul, and it is the soul, the spark of Life inside every single being, that heals the separated entities. And we’ve all been torn up a little bit in body. mind and heart.
3 Real Types of Healing:
1. Physical or Bodily Healing:
Physical healing is the only type of healing you might be able to see. You can see a cut turn into a scab turn into a scar turn into skin again.
When it comes to sickness or major healing of any kind, the body demands of us stillness and rest. Why is that?
We are being pulled into ourselves. The spirit, through the means of the body, is literally demanding attention, awareness. Pain is the quickest, the most direct way to do this.
Think of it this way: the body is demanding quality time with your soul. In essence, it’s demanding healing (reunification with soul). Because it speaks every love language but when quality time is being vastly overlooked through a busy lifestyle, the body will intercede and push you into quiet rest. It needs that love language of quality time.
And it will do what it takes to get it.
To give this quality time, you will feel called to sleep a lot. Or lay around a lot. Or perhaps you will lose appetite so that the body and soul can focus on working together to bring the body back in touch wherever it’s lost touch with the vibrant life of the soul (and also hit the reset button).
So the best thing here to actively do: nothing. Let sleep take you. Let laziness take you. Focus on healing.
In the spirit of doing nothing, you can meditate with certain mudras or mantras:
Mantras: “I am well.” “I am constantly healing.” “I am connected to Spirit who loves me back into health.” “I am health.” “I am a miracle of healing.” Whatever speaks to you.
Mudras: Gyan mudra - Bring index fingers to thumbs, in a circle and let the other three fingers point out. Dhyani mudra - Bring right hand on top of left, palms up and bring tips of thumbs touch, pointing up to sky. This mudra also makes a circle.
In meditating, you can visualize the health that will result from this time of rest or this particular repair of the body.
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2. Emotional or Heart Healing:
This, to me, is the hardest kind of healing. And it hurts the most. It often leads to some kind of physical healing, but is often the most difficult to move through.
One thing I need to clear here is that emotional dysfunction comes through the heart chakra usually because hurt usually comes from other people, and the heart chakra is the seat of connection with the rest of humanity. That’s why I say heart healing. And oftentimes, we feel a majority of emotions in the heart.
But not always.
Sometimes the hurt happens in the throat chakra when you hurt yourself, usually covering some type of truth about yourself, some type of disconnection or lack of expression. Sometimes it happens in the solar plexus chakra if we have deprived ourselves of some type of positive action.
But no matter how we let the pain in, most of the time we end up with a torn emotional body. In this article, I’m referring to the heart as the emotional body because it’s in the center os us with and between the other two emotional chakras and because it’s where we feel a lot of emotions.
When it comes to emotions and the heart, there are two things to consider: the past and the present.
When fractures (separations from soul) happen in the present moment, we have a lot more power when we are mindful, when we train ourselves to come into the moment as soon as something tears us. We can let the pain come through into the emotional body, accept with a deep breath and fully feel it, and then as we exhale let to move right out of us.
If we do this in the present moment with the realization that nothing that’s being done to you by another human is personal, then we can prevent the mental suffering that often comes hand in hand with emotional suffering.
Emotional hurt in the present when we are mindful is just a transient feeling we can release from our energetic field. After the exhale, after we let it move right through us, and release it from the back of us, we honor our connection with Spirit, which gave us the strength to be mindful and at the same time, made us bigger than the split or hurt or pain.
Feeling emotional pain when it happens takes a lot of awareness. For many of us, that’s only happening a small percentage of the time.
So for the most part, we are dealing with emotions stuck in our energy field from the past.
Do I sound like a broken record when I say meditation is key for this kind of healing? But not just any type of meditation. You might need the help of meditation teacher or psychiatrist if you serious emotional trauma or PTSD, but bringing up past experiences that you know caused you some wear and tear, that you know you need healing for.
When you do this, you should let visualization (obviously), and breath work, supported by an ancient mudra. Bring yourself into a safe, warm space. Have courage and visualize the moment the hurt happened.
When the pain comes, you’ll have to accept it with one breath, honoring it completely for the strength it brings, and then exhale, you must completely and totally let it go. Free it from your energy field and imagine it made its beautiful journey through you and out the back of you (whatever chakra in your body where you felt it the most).
You may have to do this a number of times. Start with little heartaches and work your way up to the bigger stuff.
Some tips to help:
Pranayama: My favorite pranayama for emotional pain is dirga pranayama or 3-part breath. Try to do it lying down. Relax completely, soften and open through the whole body. For the first breath, breathe into solar plexus and belly, and when you are pretty full of breath, take one more sip of breath at the top of your inhale, then exhale completely from here with the belly pushing the air out. Next breath, fill up the belly, then at the top of the inhale, take one more sip into the heart and upper back and exhale completely. Next breath, breathe into solar plexus and heart, and at the top of the inhale, take one last sip of breath into the neck, the voice chakra. Exhale completely. Breathe into all 3 parts of you, filling yourself up and then at the top of the inhale, take one last sip and exhale completely and totally.
Mudras: Solar Plexus Mudra - fingers together at solar plexus, fold thumbs together and this triangle point away from you. Hridaya mudra - index finger comes to the base of the thumb, thumb goes to middle and ring finger, while pinky finger point outward. Throat chakra mudra - interlace fingers with palms facing up, thumbs come to touch, pointing upward (hold in front of throat if needing healing in the energy of the throat chakra).
Yoga: A lot of emotions that get stuck in your emotional body can be removed through movement and breath. And that is called yoga. To be exact, anything that opens and stretches your fascia, your hips and your heart is going to elevate your emotional body frequency by removing what’s not wanted or what’s trying to leave.
E-motions: Energy in motion. Let it move out of you. Every day. If we can be in the present, we prevent the emotions from ever living in us.
3. Mental or mind healing:
Your mind is and should be only a tool for your soul, but somehow, over millenia, humans got hypnotized by their thoughts and let the mind take over.
We got into the habit of surviving in a tribe, and then letting the tribe dictate our beliefs about ourselves and the world. This is where we got into trouble. We knew instinctively that we must be loved to survive, that we had to get along with the group or else we would be cast out in the cold.
This was the beginning of society inserting foundational beliefs about ourselves and the world right into our very young minds.
And as you might have seen already, many of these core beliefs are downright wrong. Many times, there’s a profit to be made from not just a few of them.
So this kind of healing takes some instinctive, inspirational digging. As with the rest, I recommend meditation, but, of course, this kind of healing has its own special type of meditation.
It can be done in day-to-day life using mindfulness too. Get still, present or silent and let the thoughts bubble up. Look at any thought and follow it to a core belief. When you get to the core belief, question it.
“I need to get up and get something done - this is a waste of time.” Catch this thought and start asking questions of the thought: Why do I need to get up and get something done? Answer: Because you’re being lazy! Question you might ask: Why am I considered lazy? Answer from your mind (ego): You’re not doing anything! You need to be of value in the world. Question: Why do I need to be doing something to be of value? Answer: Because if you’re not doing something, you’re not being good enough, you have no value - BOOM we’ve hit a nerve.
Now you’ve found the core belief: Ask another question of the belief: Why am I not good enough, as I am? And then the mind does a little search and you find out by letting the images come to you - parents who never stopped doing, a society that never stops working. Pushing outside forces that led you to believe you were not good enough, as you are.
Then keep questioning that belief. Are you good enough? (Hint: The answer is that you are a spark of God so you are more than good enough, you’re a miracle and a power in this world, just sitting there doing nothing, actually).
Tips to help with this:
Mantras: When you find a core belief, make a mantra to contradict society’s hypnosis. With the example above, we can make a mantra from the mental core belief “I am not good enough, as I am.” Your new mantra (and eventually core belief) will be “I am amazing, even when I do nothing.” Or “I am a miracle and force in this world just because I am alive.”
Kalesvara mudra: Bring all fingers to touch the corresponding fingers of the other hand. Leave the thumbs together and curl the rest of your fingers inward toward the palms until fingernails are touching, then make a steeple of the two middle fingers. Good for intuition, inspiration and third eye.
Mahamayuri mudra - Interlace all fingers but the pinkies, which will touch and point to the sky. Good for Divine connection, the crown chakra.
All we are trying to do is bring the parts of us that operate and work for the soul with their capacities, back into connection with the soul and letting that beautiful light of consciousness (that we are) heal and invigorate what’s been torn or in dysfunction with new, bright life.
This is real healing - wholeness and integration with the soul.
We aren’t broken, but there might be some bruises and tears, sometimes really deep tears that need healing and reconnection with Spirit. Awareness, and love, especially self-love, are the best things to wrap around what needs internal healing.
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